It was not that long ago in our workplaces that woman faced some serious challenges. We had to struggle to get into a job but then we faced some serious issues when we married because employers just knew we would become pregnant. Careers ended with babies and if women could go back, they could not achieve what single women achieved and certainly could not hope for what men were accomplishing. I could go on forever here about the struggles of women with families faced back in the day at work but did you know it still happens?
There is diversity in today’s workplaces that I feel many people do not realize exists and this diversity is all about single parents. Times have certainly changed and more single parent families are currently working than ever before. Perhaps we may know our coworker is a single mom or dad but we probably do not talk to them about their situation. We may share anecdotal stories about kids’ projects or birthdays but we have not considered their unique struggles. As single parents the world of work can be very different. Business travel may present a whole new element of stress because reliable childcare may be an issue for them. Working late can also present special problems due to daycare. What is a single parent to do?
Tips for Managing Work and Parenting
The first thing a parent can do is be honest with their employer. They may find some support there that was previously unknown. Talk about flexible work schedules to accommodate working late. Could teleconferencing be a way around a business trip every now and then? Can a weekend day be arranged and perhaps kids could be brought to work or maybe work from home arrangements can be made as well. The expectations of our jobs does not go away but flexibility in how we do our jobs can go a long way to enhance productivity as well as employee engagement. Perhaps another way to manage shifts and late hours may be to form a support group or team at work with another parent. Share child minding or pick up times from daycare to help each other out when schedules become hectic.
Still Struggling?
Sick days are very stressful! No one likes it when their child is ill and it this can happen with deadlines looming or important projects are due that day. Communication and flexibility are key in these situations as well as creativity. Perhaps there is someone who can help out for the day or you can make those work from home arrangements. Employers are becoming more aware of the struggles their single parents face. Many managers themselves are now single parents also so you are not alone. Find out if your company offers Work, Life Balance days. Days you can take off in addition to your vacation days without pay or a percentage of your daily salary. This could be a life saver for you when unexpected absences or special events arise. Another thing to seek out from your benefits may be Employee Assistance Programs. This benefit is free to use and when you connect with them, they can offer advice, research and support.
